There seems to be a misunderstanding about the difference between what’s common and what’s normal.
I noticed this when I was pregnant the first time. The midwives would say in reply to most of my questions about the strange things that were happening to my body, “Oh, that’s normal.”
Really?
I became curious about what’s normal and what’s common. And how to know the difference?
So by definition normal is conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected, and common is occurring, found, or done often; prevalent.
I decided that what was common for most did not need to be my normal. It may be common for mothers to struggle with guilt, time management and self-worth, but it doesn’t have to be normal.
Here’s the thing, you get to choose what’s normal for you. This can be truly powerful in changing your daily experience.
I’ve started a new commitment to creating my new normal, and I’ll be posting to Twitter and Facebook with the hash tag “mamasnewnormal”.
I hope you’ll consider joining me. Together we can inspire each other to create a new normal for moms.
Here’s a few examples –
– Enjoying a spa treatment when needed, not when it fits in the schedule #mamasnewnormal
– Making a stop at my favorite restaurant on my way home from a meeting to enjoy a quiet meal at the bar. The kids will survive even if I take 30 minutes to myself. #mamasnewnormal
– Asking for help. #mamasnewnormal
My goal and hope is that we all allow ourselves to make it a priority to do what we desire and to give ourselves permission to indulge, break the rules and let go. To leave the guilt once and for all and finally dare to have it all!
I’d love to hear from you. In the comments below, share your new normal. Your post will inspire another woman to create her new normal. Who will you inspire?
To your joy,
Melanie Toner
P.S. You can use the hash tag on any social media platform. Follow me on Twitter @melanietoner or Facebook.com/MelanieTonerCoach